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Sunday, June 28, 2009

Why I write Stuff Christians Like.

Recently I got some strongly worded opposition to the Stuff Christians Like blog. And I think that’s OK. When I get what feels like a personal attack, I also receive two gifts:

1. A chance to spend time in the Bible making sure I am not misrepresenting God’s word and truth and hope.

2. A chance to live out Matthew 6:8 where Jesus says “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.”

Let's be honest, those are not my first knee jerk reactions when someone piñatas me. I usually want to write something horribly sarcastic back to the person or at the bare minimum print their comments on a novelty belt buckle. But if I take the time to pray and think about it, God usually brings me back to those two points.

The truth is, sometimes it’s easy to focus on the squabbles or the negativity or anything else that gets stirred up in our days. So even though it's a Sunday and I usually don't post on Sundays, I wanted to share with you an email I got last week. Although it was addressed to me, it’s your email too because you’ve made this site a community. You’ve made this free, silly blog a place where honest conversations are taking place. Here's an email from a reader:

Jon,

A while back, after several events culminated in my leaving Christianity and beginning to consider conversion to Judaism, a friend emailed me a link to SCL with a simple message that she understood my problems with Christianity, but that if I had been given the opportunity to develop my own spirituality in a healthy environment (I was brought up nominally Christian, until the day my grandparents joined the Branch Davidian church, and it all went downhill from there), that this was the kind of Christian she thought I'd be. I read some of the posts (Booty, God, Booty especially stuck with me), laughed a bit, told her she was right, you're the kind of Christian I look up to and respect, and went about my business.

A couple of years, a nervous breakdown, a lot of prayer and soul searching and quality time with the Scripture later, and I'm at a point in my life where I'm seriously considering coming back to Christianity. I've been attending church with my boyfriend, who has been absolutely amazing about talking to me about religion without pushing or pressuring me, and I've been doing a lot of reading and praying on my own -- I think it says something that even after the Branch Davidian debacle and a serious crisis of faith surrounding some health issues, among other things, the farthest I can really get from Christ is to follow the faith He followed during his time on earth. And I've started rereading SCL, and reading Prodigal Jon a bit more in depth.

Anyhow, I guess I just wanted you to know that your blogs have been comforting and helpful to me, and even in the tongue in cheek entries, I've found a lot to think about in my ongoing search. I don't know what your intentions were when you started the blog, or your motivations in continuing it for as long as you have, but you've honestly touched at least one life and made it better. Thank you.

There are going to be people that don’t like this site. Part of the risk of “going first” is that you create a target for people to fire at, but you know what? By going first with your story, with your faith and your hope, you also create a lighthouse. You also create a neon sign that says, “Jesus is here. Jesus is real. Jesus loves laughter. Jesus loves you.”

And that’s what I hope you and me and a lot of other people with blogs keep doing.

Jon

59 comments:

  1. I've read every post on this site and, make the following observations:

    1. The author gives honour to Jesus Christ.
    2. The author goes after, criticises and - yes - is occassionally snarky about the absurd and often unChristlike behavious of a subculture of people who claim the Lordship of Jesus Christ.

    It's Jesus who saves us; not belonging to a religious subculture. If people get sensitive, touchy and upset about criticism of the subculture, I can't help but wonder if it's because their faith and hope is in it, not in Jesus Himself.

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  2. Love it. Love your blog. Thanks for being the part of the body God called YOU to be (funny bone?) Sorry so cheesy. I couldn't resist.

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  3. Brilliant man. Keep on going. The gift of going first, even though it's hard, is that it allows others to go second. :)

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  4. We just have to laugh at ourselves sometimes, and you point out some of the funniest things about us church-goers and believers. We can be a ridiculous lot.

    And yet God still loves us.

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  5. John - I must say that your blog is and continues to be one of the most enjoyable, accessible and Godly blogs I follow.

    Keep up the good work!

    J

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  6. That's awesome. I can only hope to have such a great comment come my way someday.

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  7. Thanks for sharing that lovely note Jon. And thanks for going first. This is part of your ministry and you're doing a great job!

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  8. ditto to all these! You have just the right amount of humor and depth in all your posts. Keep it up!

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  9. I only received one negative post on my blog in the two years that I have written but it is the one that stands out first to me. Why is that? Why after two years of hundreds of people writing to encourage me and me them do I focus on the one person who hated me?

    Here's to say that you have written some of the most poignant posts about the reality of walking with God. Don't let the detractors have the preeminence in your mind. Keep letters around such as this one to remind you who you came to "save."

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  10. Please keep this up. I was also raised in a very unhealthy church environment (read: cult) and struggle even now to figure out what christians "look like", the whole christian culture thing. It feel oppressive to me, as though loving Christ equals wearing ankle length denim skirts from LL Bean, etc, etc, etc.
    God has stuck by me, lovingly, amazingly, and I trust Him now. I don't necessarily trust other Christians. But your blog is like this refreshing breeze of humor and perspective that blows away the hype and leaves what's truly important.

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  11. Thank you for writing this blog and doing what you do. I don't think you will ever know how many lives you've touched.

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  12. I was thinking of writing some long winded comment, but in a nutshell ---

    Your writings are honest, clean, and so true!!

    Good job :)

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  13. That's awesome Jon! I got a ton of similar emails after I wrote this post:

    http://www.lemusingsofmoi.com/2009/06/you-give-god-bad-namea-bad-name.html

    It's good to know that there are some christians out there, while not perfect, are doing their best to show who Christ really is!

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  14. Love, love, love your blog...my poor husband often hears the recap of your post over dinner and we all have a good laugh (except Wednesday ;)). Now, I do think you're a bit irreverant once in awhile, but so am I at times and I can be a bit uptight. I love that your posts make me look at my life to see if I do the quirky things you point out! And a huge plus, is that when you're laughing about the odd things Christians do, it's hard to be mad at them.

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  15. 'Nuf said. Just beautiful, Jon!

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  16. I'm a longtime lurker. Just wanted to chime in "me too!" after what the girl wrote in that letter.

    I am grateful to see examples of how it's possible to be a Christian and still have a sense of humor, a sense of reality, and some common sense.

    Jesus is where it's at. We're just a bunch of rag tag followers. And it's awesome!

    Keep it up!

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  17. I love your blog. Over the last couple of years I have run across some Christians who have crossed into the legalism realm including a Pastor that rejected me at Church because I was not with my husband who was scheduled to work that day! Your blog reminds me that I am not alone with the struggles I have faced but are presented in such a way that you put a smile on my face. You remind me that in the midst of some Christians going down a destructive path of legalism, there are some out there, though not perfect that are sharing the Love of Christ with others! Thank you for that!

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  18. I thank God for you and what he's doing through SCL -i have been touched by the blog from the beginning and have forwarded many of the posts... know that you are making a difference because of your transparency and humor and ability to connect on so many levels--
    so, even on the days when i don't quite "get you" ,i know someone else is being ministered to(someone younger and cooler,no doubt):)
    JESUS LOVES YOU jon,and so do i...keep giving him the glory,and remember that HE is your reward

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  19. Hmm so some people dont like stuff christians like. I guess that means they like stuff christians dont! Jon-dont let people bug you, you are doing just FINE!

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  20. Thank you for sharing this. You are a true warrior for God, and if you have brought one soul to Him, you're okay in my book. Even if you have secret beer.

    WV: gasub- the sort of place you have to eat on a long road trip.

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  21. I want to thank you too, for sharing this post and your blog with us. One of my former pastors asked me one time "why in the world do you even still go to church with everything that's happened to you in them over the years???"

    I've sent a bunch of my friends here to read your blog. A bunch of them are young. Some of are my music students. They want a relationship with God that is real and means something. But they feel out of place at church a lot of times. They feel like something is wrong with them when they can't get behind all the stuff that has very little to do with Jesus and a lot to do with the strange sub-culture that grows up around church. Reading your blog has given them, and me too a great reminder that we can laugh at the stupid stuff. More than that though, it's helped a lot of people get past some of the resulting pain and reconnect with the living Jesus and also to find a sense of community with like minded people. I think we all feel a little less alone. Thank you!

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  22. Jon, when I read your blog I usually have 1 of 4 reactions: a) laugh out loud b) chuckle c) say to myself, hmm, okay, not one of his better ones or d) feel convicted about something. I think you are doing a great job poking healthy fun at the stuff Christians like and making us think about deeper things. I, for one, am really glad you started this cuz Christians can be really weird and it's good to know I'm not the only one who thinks that. So keep on going. Erin

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  23. Wow, that was a really powerful and touching email, thanks for sharing that.

    And while I'm at it, thanks for this blog. I accidentally stumbled across it one day, liked what I read, and decided to pull up a chair and stick around. You pick up on the flaws of Christian culture and handle them in a humorous way, and you also provide some deep, heart-wrenching posts (like the prayer request thread and the one where you talked about your struggle with techno music). You have such a great ministry going on here, and a wonderful community has grown up around it. So thanks for this, and I can't wait to get your book!

    I think I may take some time this afternoon to go through the archives and read stuff I missed. :)

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  24. Don't let the criticism discourage you. I just found your blog yesterday and think it is just what I as a Christian need to hear. We take ourselves too seriously.

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  25. You know I pink fuzzy heart you, Jon.

    To the person who wrote that email to you: Thank you. The world needs more encouragers. That's just awesome.

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  26. I've been faithfully reading your blog for about 6 months. I was raised crazy-fundamental and I'm pretty sure I'm the poster child for suffering from spiritual abuse.

    Five years ago we moved and found a much more balanced church. Your blog is a lot like our church. Balanced. Passionately serving Christ while not skewering fellow Christians and non-believers alike.

    I also have thought more than once while reading your blog, "Oh, so I'm NOT the only one who thinks like that."

    Keep up the good work!

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  27. Jon, your blog could easily be stereotyped away as a "making fun of Christians" blog - but to those of us who regularly read it, it's obviously much more than that. It's almost more like you're making fun of yourself :) and we just happen to identify with you. It is very refreshing to read a Christian blog that somehow manages to uplift, while gently scraping away at the rust we develop in our Christian lives and challenging the non-essentials that somehow get elevated to essential. The only other writer I have read who does something similar is Adrian Plass. He too could be easily boxed away as someone who makes fun of Christians - but rarely do I come out of any other Christian books feeling so challenged and simultaneously uplifted as I do from his.

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  28. So true. As I told a friend of mine recently, I hop over here when i'm discouraged + sick of Christians + feeling completely apathetic/cynical about religion. And then I realize there are many folks with the same (as one commenter put it "snarky" hehe) humor + wit & that laughter is NOT A SIN, especially when we're good humoredly laughing at ourselves. It cheers me up & brings me out of my discouragement.

    Much thanks!

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  29. Jon , I rarely post anything anywhere, but I wanted you to know that your reaction to the negative email was spot on. It is so easy to go on the defensive and get mean right back, but you took the road you are called to take. You inspire me to be patient and lean on Christ when things get ugly. Good job brother. Jesus is here.

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  30. Good words, Jon. I got an ugly email yesterday and I needed these two points to carry with me today--as well as the letter. It does make a difference...it does. Sometimes we've gotta get up, brush off and go on.

    PS I often forward your "stuff" to my husband, Chris, at work. It lightens and brightens both of our days.

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  31. Just about every post I read I think "it's funny because it's TRUE!" I giggle to myself and think "I've just GOT to forward this to everyone." Well, in order to keep my friends from blocking me from emailing them I just tell them to read your blog.

    Thanks for doing what you do!

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  32. I've been pretty much unchurched most of my life, but I'm trying to dig in and learn about Christianity now. Sometimes it seems so overwhelming! SCL is a breath of fresh air. I like the way you come out and say some of the things that run through my mind. Keep on writing!

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  33. I only just found your blog last week...but I spent HOURS reading your entries, outloud, to my husband sitting on the couch nearby. We laughed until nearly 2am. It was the most fun we have had in ages.

    We are so glad to have found someone that is spiritually where we want to be yet still honing a pretty wicked sense of humor. Of course, we mean wicked in a totally late-80's sort of way.

    Thank you for your blog. Thank you for reminding us that laughter can be sooooooooooo cathartic!

    The Mooneys

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  34. I've read faithfully since nearly the beginning because I was also raised in (and continue to be immersed in) evangelical subculture. In the beginning SCL was just a welcome path to lightening up and not taking ourSELVES so seriously (and instead taking the cause of Christ a lot more seriously), but your Wednesday posts have stepped up the intensity in an amazing way. This past Wednesday's was profound and actually kind of life-changing. Your authenticity and honesty and surrender to being an instrument in God's Hands is having an impact on the Kingdom.

    Be encouraged. It's important work you are doing.

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  35. Just wanted to thank you for all that you do!

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  36. Thank you for what you do. You touch so many lives and this letter is just one example. Thank you for cracking open the Christian Culture and letting us all know it's okay to laugh at ourselves. Excellent work John!!

    -Avid SCL follower, Hannah

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  37. Keep it coming, what you write is funny, but more importantly, it MATTERS.

    Blessings,
    Carolynn

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  38. Whoever criticized what you do needs to loosen up. God is love. Jesus is God. You ever seen genuine love that doesn't involve grins, laughter, and good-natured razzing? Me, neither. Ergo, Jesus would definitely approve of your good-natured razzing of Christians/Christianity. He also encourages us to deal with the sin in our lives and get rid of it and you shining the light on areas in need of improvement in individuals and the Church as a whole is a step towards getting rid of the sand in the foundation and replacing it with solid rock, as it were.

    It's a huge encouragement to me to know I am not the only one dealing with [problem/sin/struggle]. I'm glad to know in a tangible way that I am not alone and others are just as not-together as I am (misery loves company, right? ;D). It's a huge comfort to be reminded that God loves us no matter what and better things are ahead for those who know Him as Lord and Savior. I've had a very rough several years in my walk with Christ and gotten away from Him and I'm trying to get back on track right now, so being reminded of God's unconditional love defintiely helps me to keep going and not to listen to the enemy whispernig in my ear that I've totally blown it and should just give it up. Your blog ministers to many people and God is using it to touch lives. When God is using something for His glory, it's a given the enemy is going to attack to try and undermine and destroy. He's going to try to get you to focus on the one criticism instead of the thousands of plaudits and positive comments. Keep your eyes on God and keep exaulting Him and pointing others in His direction.

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  39. "Dear friends, don’t be surprised at the fiery trials you are going through, as if something strange were happening to you. Instead, be very glad—for these trials make you partners with Christ in his suffering, so that you will have the wonderful joy of seeing his glory when it is revealed to all the world.
    So be happy when you are insulted for being a Christian, for then the glorious Spirit of God rests upon you. If you suffer, however, it must not be for murder, stealing, making trouble, or prying into other people’s affairs. But it is no shame to suffer for being a Christian. Praise God for the privilege of being called by his name! For the time has come for judgment, and it must begin with God’s household. And if judgment begins with us, what terrible fate awaits those who have never obeyed God’s Good News? And also,

    “If the righteous are barely saved,
    what will happen to godless sinners?”

    So if you are suffering in a manner that pleases God, keep on doing what is right, and trust your lives to the God who created you, for he will never fail you."

    1 Peter 4:12-19

    This is one of my favorite blogs and has challenged me in my own faith. Thanks for writing!

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  40. I love Stuff Christians Like. Sure, it takes itself a little too seriously sometimes (the serious Wednesdays are a bit much for me at times), but I love how well-written and hilariously accurate it is. It's gotten me thinking about the type of Christian community I eventually want to be a part of. (And it's probably not going to be the hymn-dissing megachurch with a name that sounds like a chic clothing store.) But this blog also makes me think about how much I love some of the cheesiness of Christian Culture, because a lot of times it's just the result of people earnestly trying to connect to one another in a "relevant" way. I don't love the interpretive dances, but I love the sentiment behind them. Ah, it's a wonderful life sometimes.

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  41. Dan from Minneapolis, MNJune 28, 2009 at 10:49 PM

    Jon,

    Love your blog! It is REAL great to have a Christian blog that doesn't get so serious about debating things that are important or not important and end up in flame wars, name-calling, or worse yet, questioning someone's salvation. Much of the stuff you blog about is just BEGGING to be laughed at, and I think your blog is breath of fresh air on the web! Thanks again!

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  42. well..you cant please EVERYONE right...love your blog btw..
    peace signs all the way from Malaysia.. :)

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  43. Of course you could have posted that nasty email for us all to have a read. The fact that you didn't is proof again that you have a heart for God.

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  44. The people who can't laugh at the things on this site are the ones who are destroying the Church. Instead of laughing at the garbage we are supposed to pretend that the garbage is the Gospel? No thanks!

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  45. Anyone can criticize. It's far more impressive for someone to attempt something great and be mediocre, than for someone to merely watch and bulls-eye faults, perhaps out of personal insecurity about self-worth.

    I read very few blogs, and this is one of those.

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  46. That is a beautiful and encouraging story. Thank you, Jon.

    And thanks, too, for verbing "pinata." That was seriously inspired.

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  47. That's awesome! I had always been taught that sarcasm was a bad thing (not that this ever prevented me from using it judiciously). But, I guess if it is, this just shows that God uses even bad things for good.

    I just like that this blog is here to show people that Christians aren't just a bunch of legalistic stuffed shirts with no personality. People don't have to worry that following Christ means that you can't have fun and laugh...often.

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  48. The main problem with this site is that you call yourself prodigal jon sometimes and other times prodigal john. Real christians don't change there name!

    uuuhh. just kidding. Keep up the good work bro.

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  49. the last part of this post really hit home. i've never hid the fact in my blog posts that i'm a christian, in fact i've even posted about church & choir happenings a few time. but i've never shared my testimony till now. your post was the last push of encouragment i needed. i want that neon sign to shine bright!

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  50. awesome...always good to know you're making a difference.

    on another note, have you written a post about how Christians love to blog?

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  51. I'm just gunna keep it real, alright?

    I love reading your blog. Sometimes I feel like its not funny, but its super funny other times.

    But here's the reason I like it the best is because you're honest. Alot of christians won't admit they struggle with something.

    Sometimes I'l forget its Wednesday and just being reading random blogs about FAILs and Passive Agressive Notes and then I get to your blog andyour words just hit me in the gut.

    I love it. The whole no pain, no gain.

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  52. Jon you rock. I'm a new reader and have also gotten blasted for my humor on youtube and my blog, but I press. Thanks for contributing to my joy :-)

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  53. Jon, if you aren't getting vehement opposition from somebody, then you aren't doing it right! Know that SCL means the world to this Christian. It has helped me in the tough times, and it has brightened the good ones.

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  54. I'm glad she sent that email. I'm sure there are many more like her that don't email.

    Your comment section is a gathering place, Jon. I appreciate that as much as I do the posts.

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  55. i definitely echo the encouragement!

    can you write a blog post about the comments that get deleted? i'm always so curious. are they offensive? use poor language? bomb threats? such mystery! maybe you can come up with some comment removal guidelines.

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  56. Mary -
    Good question, unless it's a spam comment or attacks someone other than me, I actually don't delete comments. What usually happens is that the author of the comment deletes it and makes a different comment.
    Jon

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